Nurture As Anything

a woman outdoors performing a yoga pose Written by Frances' Pearls of Confusion

‘Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind’.

Sound familiar to anyone? Whether you’re Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Atheist etc., we have all heard, at one time or another, this famous line found in the Ten Commandments. (Don’t worry – this will not be a religious rant). Let’s break it down; What is it to love ‘God’? What is God?

Well, I don’t have the answer. But whether it resonates to you in the idea of Energy, Universe, Infinite, Light without an End, Source; it – whatever it is – is the crux of our existence, what we are made of – our essence. Think of it as the Divine within each and every one of us, and all of our Earthly inhabitants. So when I listen to that commandment, it works as a beautiful reminder of how important it is to love myself. Because what on earth am I doing here if I’m not doing that? I know with full confidence that I was not brought here to lead a life of self-hate, and how can I expect the world to know love if I don’t know it in myself. It’s just not possible. Which is what brings me to the oh-so-wonderful topic of NURTURE AS ANYTHING.

To nurture is to care and give attention to something that is growing. So as much as we can get sucked into the turbulence that inescapably exists in this game we call life, let’s take a step back to acknowledge that we are ever-changing and ever-evolving creatures. Not here to dwell on our pasts, and not here to try to take control of a non-existent future, but here to be completely present with the acceptance of reality as it is (not as we would like it to be).

To me, to nurture oneself is to become so connected with yourself and everything you do; eating, walking, bathing, dressing. Those ‘mundane’ things in life that actually take up so much of our day, but somehow end up just being a means to an end – an end that never really comes. You see we all have this ‘monkey mind’, which LOVES to speak-up and often wreak havoc, as it overrides our true inner voice. It loves to judge, to criticize, and complain. It does this in an attempt to protect us – a kind of misguided friend. When we experience what I like to call fluctuations, our roller-coaster of human emotions, our ‘friend’ begins a cycle of feedback loops and in that process, we lose touch of reality – and of how perfect we are in the good times and the not so good. Fortunately, we all have the pleasure and pain of having this companion with us. For me, nurturing is to get past that stream of mind-chatter and to cultivate a healthy and supportive relationship with myself – my true self. As I really am! This is what I refer to as ‘mindful living’, and the formal practice of mindful living is called ‘meditation’.

Whether you choose yoga, tai chi, qi gong or any one of the many forms of meditations (music, dance etc.) it is, as I like to say, going up the same mountain along different paths – which is what we’re all doing, isn’t it? The same desire to find peace, to find truth, and to just be happy. Living in a state of constant self-nurture and self-love. Only then may the world know the same. So let’s do it – let’s get in and amongst it! Practice your meditations – whichever suits your rhythm – and get connected with your flow. Observe the fluctuations and give them so much love that sometimes it’s overwhelming!

And watch as that love overflows and makes its way out, spreading to anyone and anything that comes your way, turning the wonderful idea of self-nurture to really nurturing ANYTHING.

Lots of love to you all!

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